Another term for Leadership
Have you heard of the term – “Headship?”
It is another term for Leadership.
I think it has a Biblical origin, whereby the man is recognised as the “head” in marriage and so he was endowed with authority and the right-to-dominate. This set of beliefs would not sit well with women in marriages or society in general, today, and understandably so.
It may have been Paul’s mistake of patterning the man’s role as “head” after Jesus Christ’s position as “Head-of-the-Church” which gave weight to the husband’s role in a marriage. Patterning your life on someone else without thinking about possible negative consequences can be a dangerous thing.
A True Leader has a Servant’s Heart
Should the husband, become Lord and Master or Servant, I ask you?
The Man and Christ have been compared since, so does that automatically give the Man all the rights and roles to that of the Lord in the home?
I think many in societies today still act out this misconception in families and in other areas of life, like board rooms, sports fields etc. Men dominate to a significant degree. Change is happening but it is happening so slow that the real benefits will be experienced fifty to hundred years from now.
What are some of the traits of good Leaders anyway?
I think the great Leader and teacher of Leadership, Mr John C Maxwell, stated it rightly –
“The best leaders desire to serve others, not themselves.”
How many of you reading this can honestly look at yourself in the mirror and say that you truly have a servant’s heart?
I agree, totally, … all great Leaders have a servant’s heart. Can you think of some great Leaders? Who comes to mind? Gandhi? Nelson Mendela? Donald Trump? General H. Norman Schwarzkopf? Jesus Christ?
There are many good Leaders .. but not many, Great Leaders throughout history.
Headship means responsibility to act in love
We, as humans making our path through the maize of life, tend to seek & gravitate to Leaders, consciously and unconsciously.
It can be a benefit for some people, who prefer to off-load their responsibility in making decisions to someone else – a volunteer that can be used as a ‘scapegoat’ when things fuck up. You see and hear about this every single day – in politics, business and sport and life.
Headship means responsibility and initiative.
Headship is a responsibility to act in love; initiative to act in service to another. And who do you think is the greatest actor in Headship that ever walked this planet? I believe it was Jesus Christ. He demonstrated self-giving love and self-humbling service which gives us a whole new meaning and standard to the term “Headship.”
He truly embodied the qualities of servanthood.
So, to be true Leader, you need to take the initiative in building an atmosphere of loving, self-sacrificing service.
Taking on other’s qualities
Are you in a marriage?
It seems that marriage partners tend to become like each other, don’t you think?
After nineteen years of marriage with my partner, Cathy, I have deduced that there are one of two ways marriages can go. Based on my relationship and my observations of other marriages, either partners tend to become like each other and start taking on other’s qualities, or developing the opposite characteristics in negative reaction to the other.
Which way to you choose? Question is: are you still married?
Real Leadership begins in the home
A person’s fundamental character is learned from the people he or she lives with in the early part of his or her youth, his or her family. Real Leaders are molded by the people that love them in the early years.
Real Leadership, begins in the home.
Leadership, I believe, is a function which should always be shared. I grew up in an extended family where Leadership was shared. That is what I adopt with my wife and nuclear family now.
I find when Leadership is shared in mutual respect for each other, it establishes a climate of dignity, freedom and responsibility. I believe this is part of the secret to my wife and I managing our relationship for nineteen years now. We’ve both changed in more ways than one since we first met but we’ve always allowed one another room to grow.
This climate of dignity, freedom and responsibility in turn creates an atmosphere which is both comforting and stimulating to both partners in a marriage. Do you share the Leadership function with your married partner?
And how do you know if this is what you have?
Well, shared Leadership is one where each is free to grow toward personal maturity and each partner is eager to see the shape of Christ forming in the other (see Galatians 4:19-20).
Choking of communication and understanding is a cause of bad leadership
Where one party seizes power, or both the husband and the wife, both struggle for control, an atmosphere of competition and conflict results. The choking of communication and understanding is the fuel of this atmosphere. Even the unconscious assuming of power by one partner or the other will mold the relationship, perhaps in ways neither desire.
We’ve all seen this play out in the Hollywood movies countless times and some of you may have played it out in real life too.
When relationships break up, a common reason is there was a ‘break-down in communication.”
Traits of a True Leader
Here are some ways you can become a True leader:
- Put others first – being intentionally aware of others’ needs and being available to them
- Confidence to give power to others – how we treat others is often a reflection of how we treat ourselves. How do you treat others?
- Initiating service to others without expecting anything in return – the heart of true leadership is in the initiation of service
- Not status/rank – conscious – your motivation to help others is paramount
- Serves out of love – the quality of your leadership depends on the depth of concern for others
So, how do you fair in your Leadership skills so far in life?
More importantly, how do you learn to become the best servant you can be and as a result a Great Leader? A mentor once summed it up to me many years ago –
You must be little (seem insignificant) and serve all.
All the best to your Headship Role in life.
Cheers & Ahoy!
The old Cap’n Viking Pirate Evangelist Muscled Monk … & what it means to be a Great Leader