ONE. GIVE people more than then they expect.
Go the extra mile. Do it with a smile.
Human nature (especially in the Western World), teaches us to “Take”. We are constantly taking, taking things in life, for granted and by doing this philosophy of taking, we are intentionally Taking from Themselves.
If you’re a Christian like I am, you will know that the Bible teaches that to receive, you have to GIVE. You can give, in many ways – financially, emotionally, intellectually, your time etc.
I believe, your greatest GIFT to others and the world is your Attitude. Having an “Attitude of Gratitude’ (by giving Thanks), you connect yourself to the magic in the universe and ultimately receive everything you desire in life.
One must deliberately think and feel Gratitude, there is no other way to tap in to the abundance but first, you must give.
TWO. Don’t believe everything you hear or read.
Reality is what you perceive it to be, not what others tell you it is. If you don’t think so, just watch a really good magician or illusionist change your reality right before your eyes.
Also, spend all you have and sleep all you want.
I’ve been very fortunate to have been with a woman who said she just wanted to keep talking to me from the very first time she met and hear my voice. I think that is one of the best compliments I have ever had.
I feel the same way about her and we have been together since we first laid eyes on each other twenty years ago.
As you get older, their conversation skills will be as important as any other.
Thank you, my darling wife and dear life friend, Cathy for the last twenty years of talking and conversing.
FOUR. When you say, “I love you,’ MEAN it.
I’ve heard it and so may, have you. People who rattle off the phrase ‘I Love you’ but, you know they don’t really mean it as their actions to match the words.
From my experience, love is worth the risk.
It is quite simple, if you say it, mean it.
Don’t abuse that phrase.
FIVE. Live with each other for at least six months before you get married.
About eighteen years ago, my girlfriend at that time (my wife now), asked me to move in with her. After two weeks of deliberation, I called her up and said –
“why not, let’s just do it”
We were both a little scared. It was new territory for both of us. We agreed that we would give it a try for six months. If either of us or both didn’t like living with each other, we would call it quits and go separate ways.
I heard couples breaking up because they pressed the toothpaste from different ends. Apparently, the little mosquitoes irritate you more in life.
Almost twenty years later, we have beautiful memories with two beautiful children and a dog.
The six months was a key moment in our relationship.
Thank you, Cathy for agreeing with me to do this all those years ago.
SIX. Believe in love at first sight.
I know some people don’t believe in this and try to analyse their future love partners based on other logical reasoning like income, status, intelligence, looks, height etc
They’re all important, yes they are.
I believe they are not as important as listening to your intuition in choosing a partner. This usually involves illogical reasoning and matters of the heart, which is tied to your eyesight and seeing love before your eyes.
It is a beautiful thing.
I’m still with my wife from the first time I laid eyes on her in the Photocopying/Fax Room at our place of work, in the year 2000. We were Business Consultants working for a Top Advisory Firm in Sydney, Australia.
She gave me the best smile I had ever seen and I believe I saw her heart smile to me, through her eyes.
I fell in love, then and my love for her has grown every day since.
SEVEN. Don’t laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don’t have dreams, don’t have much.
What are dreams?
Dreams tell dreamers what could be as opposed to what currently is. Dreams are essential to creativity and innovation and achieving goals.
What are goals?
They are ‘dreams with a deadline.’ Everything begins and ends in the mind, starting with your imagination/dreams. As a mentor once said –
“If you can conceive it and believe it, you can achieve it.’
I used to tell people that if I made that person I see in the mirror better than, last week, than last month, than last year … in ten years I will be on the World Stage, standing and competing against the best in the world.”
Within ten years, I stood on stage against the best natural bodybuilders at that time, representing Australia. A Big Dream, come true. I repeated the feat the following year for good measure. As a great mentor once said –
“If you think you can, you’re right … you CAN.”
Don’t ever laugh at another person’s dream, no matter how far-fetched it is.
EIGHT: Great love and great achievements involve great risk.
It is worth it, if you desire it so.
Life, is many things and one of them is – life is a big exercise in Risk Management.
Remember: No Risk, No nothing.
NINE. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
Smiles should be traded in, like the Stock Market.
Those who smile often and readily, should get credits of some sort from society. Smiling makes everything a little better, unless you’re the Joker and going up against Batman.
Everything is going to be alright.
TEN. Disagree with people, if you must but don’t hate them.
It’s ok agree to disagree and still like someone.
In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling and personal judgements. Leave judgemental comments to God or people who have a profession as a Judge.
Shit happens. Stand your ground. Don’t be afraid.
ELEVEN point (.) Five: Spend time alone. Learn to enjoy your own company.
I enjoy my own company.
You can be alone, but you are not necessarily lonely. Many people cannot stand being alone with themselves. It can be the most difficult thing for some people to do, the thought of spending time with themselves, with their own minds, with their inner-thoughts is just not ‘cup-o-tea’.
Spending time alone can be beneficial in more ways than one. It doesn’t have to be a huge amount of time initially, you can simply start small and slow.
The important thing is to Start.
This is a list of only 11.5 Key lessons from my life so far … ‘0.5″ because the list is not exhaustive. Many other lessons you can choose to learn as you travel through life. The skill is in identifying the relevant ones with appropriate sufficiency.
All the very best in your choices,
Cheers & Ahoy!
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