Do what you have been born to do … NOW!
The title of this blog says ‘you don’t have to finish everything … ” and I agree. Just because you’ve started something, doesn’t mean you have to finish it. For example, I think I’ve only finished reading two books in my life …from cover to cover … one was Joseph Conrad’s Classic – “The Heart of Darkness” (I’ve read many times over) and the other is …. oh, i’ve forgottten.
I’ve always applied nature’s 80:20 Principle to most things in my life and book reading is one such activity. If I get the gist of the book (some authors tend to repeat their message over and over in their chapters), and the 5 or 6 KEY things give me 80 percent of the knowledge base (the ‘essence’), I’m content.
One of the best mentors said that to me on his 82nd birthday … saying that “Paul, whatever it is that you want to do … travelling, biking or whatever … do it now, don’t wait. That time may never come. Do what you have been born to do … Now!”
I’ve never forgotten that and I have tried to apply that in my life on a daily basis.
As I see it, your inbox will never be finished, it’s never going to be over. There will never be a perfect time to do everything. Stop thinking the ‘grass will be greener’ on the other side so stop waiting for the good stuff before you decide to …. ACT!
I believe that most men have this idea and make the mistake that one day ‘it’ will be done. They think, “If I could work enough and … hard enough, that one day, I could retire and …. Rest.” Or, they think – “One day my woman will understand something and then she will stop complaining.’Or, “I’m only doing this now so that one day I can do what I really want with my life.”
This is an error in masculine thinking, passed down for many generations. Things won’t be different … they won’t get better. It never ends.
Here’s what you do … to get out of that thinking … that ‘rutt’ –
Don’t believe in the myth
And what myth is that? Well, it is the myth that has been propagated in society and that is, men lie to themselves and others by believing –
“One day when everything will be different.”
I have news for you – it won’t! Don’t believe in the myth.
Here’s what you do – DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE BEEN WAITING TO DO – that you have been ‘putting off’ for reasons such as –
- When your finances are more secure
- When your children have grown and left home
- When you finish your obligations
- When you get that job title/promotion
Do what you love to do, what you are waiting to do, what you’ve been born to do, NOW!
Are you willing to do what it takes to give your gift?
In my experience and having over twenty thousands of conversations with people (mostly Men) in gyms over the last 3 decades, I have found that most postponements or procrastination are just excuses for a lack of creative discipline.
People give excuses such as they have no money or limited resources but that is all a lie. Limited money and family obligations have never stopped a man who REALLY wanted to do something, although they provide excuses for a man who is not really up to the creative challenge in the first place.
Do you have the creative challenge? Can you deliver? DO IT! Do IT TODAY, NOT TOMORROW. TOMMORROW MAY NEVER COME. Do it TODAY! Find out now whether you have what it takes. Are you willing to do what it takes to give your gift … your gifts and … share it with the world?
That takes courage. Courage is the foundation of everything ever ventured.
“You cannot be truthful if you are not courageous. You cannot be loving if you are not courageous. You cannot be trusting if you are not courageous. You cannot inquire into reality if you are not courageous. Hence courage comes first and everything else follows.”
Take one hour out of your day and give your fullest attention to your gift, whatever that is … for today. Right NOW.
Don’t hope that you woman/man will be fundamentally different
They won’t be.
That is another myth men have told themselves for generations. That one day your life will be fundamentally different, and you hope that .. one day, your woman will be fundamentally different (that goes for a woman too).
Just assume that she’s going to be however she is, forever. If you woman’s mood or behaviour is intolerable to you then you should leave her, and don’t look back (since you cannot change her). However, if you find her behaviour or mood only a little irritating then learn to live with it.
Don’t try to ‘fix’ your woman (she is not a electronic gadget or car that needs ‘fixing’). Instead, this is what you should do –
- Embrace and hold her (or scream or yell or wrestle for the heck of it) … and tell her that you love her when she is ‘ _____________’ that way (fill in the blank).
- Make no effort to provide a solution or bring a stop to that which pisses you off.
- Just love her
- Don’t avoid the tussle with your woman and absorb her femininity in all its glory
Don’t try to fix her. That won’t end in success. What will end in success is if you simply love her because the love that you magnify may realign her behaviour.
Notice I said – ‘may’.
Your woman and the world is much alike
Your woman and the world is much alike – they will always present you with unanticipated challenges and surprises. As I see it, you have a choice:
- You can live it FULLY, grab every single day and give your best and your gifts and share it with the world amidst those challenges or …
- Procrastinate and wait for an imaginary future which will never come.
Aim to live a life of significance. I have found that men who have live a significant lives are men who ACTED. They were courageous and made a decision with the limited information they had at the time. They never waited: not for money, security, ease or women.
As the late Steven Jobs said –
“The only way to do great work is to to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”
Even if what you want to do is “weird “. Just Do It. So, don’t wait. DO IT TODAY!
Feel and ask your heart the question. Feel what you want to give most as a gift, to you woman and … to share with the world, and do what you can to give it … TODAY. Not tomorrow … or next month or next year or … ten years from now.
DO IT TODAY.
Every moment waited is a moment wasted.
Each wasted moment puts a fog on your clarity and purpose in life which is essential to living a life of significance.
Don’t Think. DO.
All the very best to you, my fellow Man,
Cheers & Ahoy!
The old Cap’n Viking Pirate Muscled Monk