What are you?
You are many things: you’re human; you’re a girl/boy? You’re male/female. You’re a dad/mum. But who are you. What makes you? Who are you?
Nope, I am not asking you – ‘what are you?‘ or what you do for a job … you’re not an accountant, not a plumber, not a lawyer. I’m not asking what you do, I’m asking what makes you the real “YOU”.
Tick, tock, tick, tock!
You could say that you are the accumulated thoughts and choices you have made in your life, thus far. Your are your connectome. You become what you habitually think and do. Maybe, you are like a pendulum; the accumulation of the daily swing between activities and recreation.
Tick, tock, tick, tock.
The Power of Habit
To assist you in attempting to arrive at your answer to this question, I believe, one needs to un-think to think. How do you unthink? You may need to unlearn what you have learned. You may need to un-school what has been schooled. Maybe just for a few seconds or if you’re brave enough for a few minutes or a few hours.
How do you do that?
Well, like many things you have become an ‘expert’ in, you may need to rack up the necessary hours to become even remotely good at this. One of the keys is to ‘quiet the mind’. Just like all habits, the POWER rests in the consistent and persistence application of the particular habit. That is the POWER OF HABIT! As a little aside: choose your thoughts and hence, your habits, well.
Try this Unthinking routine 5 minutes before hitting the sack at night:
- Lie still in bed
- Try to eliminate all unnecessary noise – audible noise.
- Clear your mind of all thoughts. Try. Try again.
- Quiet the mind: you do this by eliminating ALL THOUGHTS. Try. … Try again.
- This isn’t easy. Matter of fact, it is darn hard.
- Don’t stress if you cannot quite your mind. Turn the light off and go to sleep.
- Try again tomorrow.
To unthink, one needs to get in to a state whereby one ‘quiets or slows the mind’. The essence is to accept that;
- all thought needs to be eliminated
- be fully aware of your presence
- all senses are heightened
- you are in the present moment – no other place but here – now.
Becoming a thinker
You will truly be in the present moment if you are able to ‘feel’ someone reach out to touch you whilst having your eyes are closed. That is your test. You are able to see what you’re not physically seeing with your eyes, that’s when you know you have quietened the mind. Then, and only then, can you start to learn to UN-THINK. Just like muscle, you cannot build this over-night but will take many years of concerted deliberate effort.
That is the start of becoming a thinker. Try it.
Seemingly easy, you will find it is a most difficult thing to do: TO THINK!
To Un-Think helps you be the best you can be
Because it is one of the most important things you can do for your life. After receiving the clarity when you un-think, you will think for yourself rather than continue to carry biased, unfounded, prejudiced thinking around with you. The old thoughts may have come from people or experiences that have crossed your path in life thus far, of which that may have influenced your current choices. Pause.
Not thinking may hinder your ability to achieve your goals. To un-think helps you to be the Best you can Be.
Don’t give up
Keep practising. Don’t give up, even when you don’t feel like you’re making any progress.
Learn to do it right.
It’s worthwhile getting a competent mentor. Learn from someone who knows, not from someone who doesn’t. No one can teach you something they do not know.
I have a neighbour and friend who started playing golf as a teenager and he regrets not taking lessons from a professional at the start. He spent 20 years playing less than his best and was constantly frustrated. More recently he had lessons from a competent professional. It took a lot of time to unlearn the bad habits he had learned, he had to re-think everything, re-learn the basics.
He had to un-think what he had previously learned, and learn a better technique. He is now enjoying his golf and has dropped his handicap considerably. He had experience – yes, 20 years of getting his golf wrong, because of whatever reasons that held him back from asking for help from someone who knew the right way.
There is always a ‘right way’. Find it.
Perfect practise makes perfect
A great coach once said that “Perfect practice makes perfect”.
Like I tell my daughter, if you’re going to do something do it right, not some of the time – ALL OF THE TIME. Perfect practise makes perfect. There are many people who practice ‘wrong’ for many years and don’t improve or achieve their goals.
We are all, ordinarily – human, most of us, love being so. I know I do. This new habit of unthinking just might make your ordinariness seem extraordinary and might reveal the champion that is inside the REAL YOU.
Bring the Real You – out!
If you are scared, don’t be. There is nothing to fear. Take as much time as you need; it’s your life, your pace. Life is too short to keep hidden from the eyes of the world. And I am not just thinking of ‘your little world’, not just your circle of friends and family. Not just your street, suburb and community.
If you’re going to do this and take the risk to think for yourself you may as well, do it with a vital element in mind and that is to: THINK BIG!
As the great Leader, Nelson Mandela said –
“Being and thinking small serves no one … you must think big”
The whole world is waiting for the Real You. Unleash him/her! Who knows what your actions may have over another fellow human being in the world. There is more that the Real You can offer your World. Get up and give.
Get up and share the Real You. The World is waiting.
Thank you for reading this far.
Until next time,
Cheers & ahoy!
The old Cap’n Viking Pirate … & a re-think of thinking